2021.12.08 22:19 legally_blondie Recurring Dream
TW: Emotional Abuse/Manipulation/Gas Lighting
I'm a strong believer in dreams having a specific meaning. Lately, I've been having a very familiar dream. Over and over again, each year it comes like an old friend... or foe... reminding me that I'm about to have to confront an uncomfortable situation. I dream that my mouth is overstuffed with gum. Huge wads of gum. And no matter how much I pull out of my mouth, there is always so much left. I can't speak, I can't breathe, and I can't remove the wad of gum from my mouth.
According to interpreters, the dream means that I have a reoccurring issue that comes up frequently and that I don't know how to deal with it. That I am helpless in a situation that I cannot escape.
It recently hit me, the holidays are coming up, meaning I will be visiting my in-laws. And with the joys of seeing my family, comes the pain of seeing my husband's family. They have emotionally abused and manipulated him for the 9 years I have been with him. His mother blamed his father's heart attack on him after we got engaged. His mother blames his grandfather's dementia on him. She tells him he is ungrateful, that he is awful, that he is a terrible son, but yet treats him as her husband and expects him to support her and be her therapist. She is also extremely physical with him.
Since we have been together, she has called me various names, insulted my family, tried to ruin our wedding, told people she will get rid of me one way or another, and so much more. Each year I go to their house believing it will be different. I go into the holidays with an open heart, and each year I have gotten burned. This is where the helpless situation I cannot fix manifests in my dreams.
After she tried to ruin our wedding, my husband told her that he needed time away from her. Since then, she has had his dad call and blames his heart issues on my husband. Had his sister call and fuss at him for not talking to his mom every day and for "dumping mom", and has had his grandmother call and scold him for being an awful son.
I have gotten used to the pain of not being accepted. I wanted to have a second family, but have accepted that will never be the case; I will never be welcomed. Recently... I read some of the messages she has sent to him, and my heart just broke. I am beyond sad, and I do not know how to support him in this time. My first reaction was to just cancel our plans with them for Christmas, but I know he wants to see them... I just am so sad for him, so heartbroken to see the one I love be hurt so badly...
I know at this point I am just drowning on. But I am at a loss... I don't want to put him in an abusive situation, but I also don't think he sees it as abuse, just normal... Thank you for letting me vent...
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2021.12.08 22:19 davidgoldWHU Thank you whoever you are for your continuing support. dg
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2021.12.08 22:19 Exastiken Sen. Thune: Vaccine mandates will have 'countereffect,' must be overturned to save jobs
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2021.12.08 22:19 Dank856 I have a question question ??( relating to work) please help !!
Hello ! Ok so basically I’m a full time student ( studying veterinarian school ) and a full time worker. ( Targets warehouse worke problem solver) So recently I’ve been struggling a lot and I mean a lot on maintaining 2 things at once and I can’t do it anymore Recently I’ve tried so hard to fight on having a schedule change for target but it’s been really hard to get what I want which would be a day off ( I work Wednesday through Saturday’s) so I can focus on studying. They’ve told me that isn’t a great excuse for them to get a day off. I’ve tried reducing hours, and neither that helps because they want me to work atleast 5 hours a day but only on Wednesdays and Thursdays, not Friday and Saturday. Like I mentioned I’ve tried everything and think of possible solutions on how to manage my time but it’s hard since my body is getting very tired on keeping up with this overnight job. I don’t want to leave it due to pay. But I’ve been an employee for almost 4 months and I’m not sure why they are making a big fuss about reducing my hours, or giving a day off ( mindful I’ve given them proof of school, my cariclium , schedule and even a letter from school claiming how I’m a FULL time student )
I guess my question would be, what can I do to fight for my position, like what rights do I have as a student trying to keep this job. Do I even have alternatives?
If not I’m guessing to put in my 2 weeks but target is bogus for not wanting to help me use flexibility on my schedule.
PLEASE let me know if anything. Thank you !
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2021.12.08 22:19 nhk236 Brought This Sweet Angel Home Today
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2021.12.08 22:19 FrozenSandwichHater Red flags when rehoming a snake.
I'm looking to rehome my apricot pueblan milk snake. I have 3 snakes, I'd like to rehome 2 so I can devote more time and care to one (going back to the office has made me reevaluate things).
This snake is not one that lets me handle it often. It musks on my hands. Has to be fed in a separate container or it won't eat. Generally I would not recommend this snake for beginners at all.
Someone answered my ad. I've never posted something online like this before. They're interested, but in their second message they asked "what else do I need for it?" I put in my ad there that the buyer needed to already have an enclosure set up. I sent them a link to a website on pueblan milk snake care, as well as offered to give them the enclosure (plastic tub) and everything in it for free.
The second red flag for me was that they had to ask someone if they'd be allowed to have it - I don't know if they mean landlords or parents or what.
Some of the language they use makes me think they're pretty young, and I really don't think someone would have a good time with my milksnake as a first snake. I also get the sense that this person looked at the pictures and emailed me, not reading much of what I wrote about the snake.
My fear is that they won't take care of it and it'll die. Other fear is they'll get sick of it, or parents won't like it, and it'll be released outside (rocky mountains).
I'm thinking I'll just keep my snake. Can I just tell this person I've decided not to sell it?
I'd sell it to an experienced keeper. I do care about this snake and want it taken care of properly.
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2021.12.08 22:19 Mouwcoon Question about ST
Relatively new to Super Turbo and fightcade in general. Just wanted to know if I need to worry about changing the game's turbo speed setting or if the default is widely used/accepted. I have seen that tournaments typically have it set 1 above default. Anyway, thanks in advance! Cheers!
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2021.12.08 22:19 CuckBuster33 Detecting obstacles on a grid in Unity
| I'm working on making an A* pathfinding solution that works with a grid (bidimensional array) of PathNodes (objects that hold some A* data, particularly of interest now, an isWalkable bool) .|
I'm making a method that checks every square in the grid (would be called on grid generation or when the enviroment is updated), translates its coordinates to a world position and does a box overlap check from the center of the squares to see if there are any colliders on top of each of them . If it detects a collider touching a node, its sets the node's isWalkable bool to false, and another script renders the node as a green squares for debug purposes. The concept itself works, but I'm getting irregular results.
here are pictures of my colliders. They're perfectly centered.
yet when the overlap checks are done, I get results like these:
The white box is the collider, the green tiles are all unwalkable. To the top and to the right of the square there are too many unwalkable tiles, and to the left there are none. Pathing agents will clip with the white box from the left, and stay too far away from the top and right. The yellow grid is a Gizmo.DrawWireCube() with the same arguments as the OverlapBox() method. For some reason it's not correctly in line.
Same happens for circles.
Here's the code I'm using to detect collisions:
I'm completely stuck, any help is appreciated.
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