Having trouble with being myself vs "family values"

2021.09.26 08:57 Pokimiss Having trouble with being myself vs "family values"

Sorry this will read as a "off my chest" post a bit. Grew up in a conservative family, I am not out to my extended family. Immediate family doesn't respect pronouns or my preferred name except my mom. 1) Mom is telling me to come down to Thanksgiving so she can see me. 2) Sister says I'm selfish for being trans and asking her to use a preferred name and pronouns. Her excuse is "I only know you as my brother, give me a break and don't be so selfish". Toxic relationship with my sister most of my life, she takes holiday and birthday gifts but doesn't give any, lots of swearing at me and verbal abuse. 3) I grew up with my parents guilting me saying I need to have better family values and that I should do it for the family.
At this point that feel to me like family values are living only within the bounds of a traditional cis-het-normative world. I feel, especially after covid lockdown, I feel less and less willing to force myself to do things that are abrasive to my mental health. I don't like that I'm being told that I don't care about people and I'm selfish. I am afraid of visiting for Thanksgiving because I will be seeing me sister who is so toxic. I am OK seeing my mom on a different week. I feel my relationship with my sister is like a blood feud at this point.
Tl:dr I am stuck between living my true self, the guilt of not living true family values, and fear of sister and her invalidating behavior. Don't know why maybe because I grew up with a lot of this "family pressure" since a young age.
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2021.09.26 08:57 Char_Cole School is driving me insane during quarantine and I don't know what to do

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