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I'm not sure if I"m being gaslit or if I'm just over-reacting..

2021.09.26 09:30 emzy78 I'm not sure if I"m being gaslit or if I'm just over-reacting..

I feel like my partner gaslights me. Conversations always hinge on their feelings while saying it's me with the various problems rather than reaching a point where we're having a discussion and move on whether we agree or agree to disagree. If I disagree, I'm told I'm not listening. I hear, I understand and I don't agree. I'm happy to agree to disagree and move on, but that is never the case.
They are insecure about themselves and from the moment I get home it feels like they are dragging me down, pointing every little thing out that I do wrong in their eyes. They suffer from depression, push their friends away to the point where they have a couple left and they are constantly inferring that I am calling them stupid should I ever try to explain what I'm feeling. Ironically, they often call my actions 'stupid'.
They constantly expect an apology over every single little thing that isn't exactly how they would do it, whilst ignoring the things I do actually do. They told me that when they were kids, it was manners to apologize about everything because everything they did was wrong - and it feels like they are trying to make me feel the same.
To me, an apology is heartfelt and given when you understand what actually hurt someone, or why bother. It isn't given 35 times a day for every single minor inconvenience caused from not knowing what they were thinking, or forgetting something on the counter (or simply not doing it because they have asked you to do 5 other things on top of the things that I'm already doing), or forgetting one of the many things they ask for - especially when I will clean up after them, clean toilets and dishes I haven't used, throwing away rubbish I haven't produced - the same things (and then some) That I'm expected to apologise for which take 3 seconds to rectify and not dwell on.
To me the 3 seconds spent moving something out of the way or putting it back isn't worth demanding an apology from someone that you're supposedly co-existing from. I don't think it's right to expect a parter to constantly be indebted to you and it feels like subconciously is because they rely on my income and are sort of balancing what they see as some sort of power struggle. I pay the bills, I give them money, I work my arse off and never mention it unless Ive walked through the door and the first comment is ''you're late''. Even then only in a matter of fact way that I'm late because I'm working and need to pay the bills.
I notice that it gets worse when I'm out doing something with people and they are home and any avenue for an argument is pursued relentlessly. I tell them 'im not sure what you are expecting' and the argument continues. I'm told I'm too proud and don't apologies about anything when I feel that I am constantly berated and told to apologies for things that I wouldn't even expect an apology for let alone waste the energy on arguing about.
They say they 'apologise for things straight away' when usually they joke about it or aren't even aware because I just get on with it. If I do bring anything up, they get defensive and justify whatever it is in a way to make it seem I'm the stupid one.
They pursue arguements because it's the mood they're in and where it could end with a 'well it's happened now, let'es move on', the core of the arguement changes and changes until it is painted as why couldn't you just say sorry'. The latest example being when my phone died, we were talking on instagram intermittently but because I didn't reply for an hour or two (working) and it became about not being able to reach me in an emergency and not apologising about it.

Things have to be done when they want it, or it is a lecture and an apology expected.
There feels like there is no middle ground and there is no co-existing, if it isn't their way it's either me biting my tongue or an argument. Today I was being accused for having a flat battery (I am working on my laptop that has messenger) Inconvenient if there is an emergency, I totally get that, but something to discuss and move on from.
I am exhausted but I'm not sure if it's me, or if it isn't ridiculous for me to think there should be a middle ground. I feel like an emotional punching bag to the extent that my day and happiness is constantly dependant on their mood. I know that if I even try to have this conversation, it will be turned solely on me and I actually don't even know if it's me or if I'm just constantly being told it's me anymore.
My happiness is shot, my patience is shot, my mindset is shot, and I'm not sure if it's just me over reacting. Maybe I'm too matter of fact and logical and they more emotional. Idk anything anymore.
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